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Dating divorced people with kids opens up the dating world exponentially and gives you lots more people to choose from.Of course, you do have to be careful when there are kids involved because if things don't work out it's not just you and the guy who get hurt -- it's the kids, too, and since they've already gone through a divorce, it's not their first time to be burned.most intact families have parenting conflicts within their own families units, they just don't happen to be brought to the surface because many marriages have developed ways of hiding problems, rather than dealing with them.Dating a single parent, whether you're a single parent or just single, is actually a nice opportunity to re-examine the way you both parent, and to make any adjustments that may benefit a blended family in the future.This is important because you cannot separate the parent from the children. Often, the attention, time and resources that a parent devotes to his/her children can make one feel jealous or resentful. Single parents are likely to set basic boundaries with regards to their children. Sometimes when we meet the kids we want to make a good impression.If you are dating a parent, their children will be part of the picture at some point. Are you self-assured and independent enough to accept that the children of your date will be the priority? These boundaries can range from time devoted to children, to dietary/nutrition concerns, to when late night guests are acceptable. If you are dating a single parent and your relationship has progressed to the point where you spend time together with the kids, notice how your date parents, the kids’ behaviors, and the family culture. Maybe we try too hard: excessively friendly, overly generous, or uncomfortably upbeat. It is natural that children may be somewhat leery of a new person in the mix.What I mean is, if you thought this was going to be a piece of cake, you'd be unrealistic, and in for a rude awakening.
This problem is NOT limited to dating divorced dads...
But you see a flashing yellow light because you and your boyfriend parent differently.
You want to back off because, after all, they're not your biological kids, right? Gather up all your confidence and remember that you probably have a good point -- whatever it is, and at the very least, it should be discussed.
Do you have any tips for how I can proceed so I don't blow it?
Signed, Proceeding with Caution " Dear Proceeding with Caution: Your concern that you're dating someone with children means that you're probably a great candidate to be a second wife and step-mom, as well as a first time mom.