Dating no desire
We must learn how to say "no" to our sexual desires even if it's unpopular and difficult. Jessica Mc Cleese of the Krist Samaritan Center in Houston, Texas.She has studied Christian sex therapy for the last four years. Mc Cleese noted that much of our issue with managing desire is that we've made our desires too important.We're a generation that's almost marked by a lack of self-discipline.We spend too much, we eat too much and it seems as though our sexual appetites have no limits."All temptation finds its power when hidden from others. So he knew eyes were on him, which he believes helped him stay accountable.Accountability partners can rob temptation of its power." When I asked my friends about their relationships, it quickly became clear that the couples I knew who saved sex for marriage had one thing in common: They had accountability partners or mentors. Both in their 20s, they dated for a year before getting married, and they found that talking about their relationship with people they trusted made all the difference. "It was good to have people on an individual level and on a more public level to engage with about our relationship," he says.She adds that managing desires isn't just for the single/dating years.
And that seems to be where many Christians fall short. You can't jump into dating and expect that sexual temptation won't be an issue.Some couples are mindful of the words they say to each other or how they sit with each other (i.e., lying down or snuggling).Set your boundaries, discuss them with one another and stick to them no matter what.So, sexual desire is a big deal to us, because it was first a big deal to God.It is a gift, but it needs to be , which is exactly where we're having trouble today.